DATE...AT YOUR RISK!

Trinidad is such a close knit society the likelihood of meeting a woman who likes women casually on the street is like finding that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. Of course females catches my eyes while on the move but never would I jump out of character and approach; Trinidad is no Paris!

Dating is different for everyone.

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Some women are reserved and prefer to go through the route of online dating (Facebook, BBM, Whatsapp TAGGED) and other online avenues. These resources are full of groups and forums. If luck shines upon you, finding someone in your area may be just one click away.  

Online dating is not always safe so taking time to protect yourself is a matter of common sense to ensure your safety. On some of these sites men post as women with a profile picture and everything to trick you. Thirsty!

There are other forms of networking such as clubs, art galleries, work, which is not a very good idea for many, many reasons; at church, yes I said it. A close friend of mine actually met her first girlfriend in church.

So I asked a few ladies how do you they meet women?
 Rachel was generous to share one of her avenues.

" I met her on B-chat.  Strangely enough she knew people I knew. (Small world) We messaged each other often, we had real good conversations . We also had a lot of things in common. I am addicted to video games. I love God of War, Grand Theft Auto and FIFA 14 and she's a gamer as too so we clicked. Then we met, hmm!  She was not what I expected. Physically I was not attracted to her but I did not want seem shallow so I dating her for awhile and things just was not working out for me. We are much better at being friends."

I thought meeting someone through a B-chat was peculiar Joanne dating method was the strangest I have ever heard of.

“My first girlfriend I found her in the classified personal ad Match making service.”

The classified, who would have thought certainly not me.

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“I called the number  and asked the operator if they do matches for same sex couples and he said yes. He gave me a number and I called. She was very articulate and funny we spoke for four months over the phone before we actually met. When we finally met there was no awkwardness whatsoever. We started a relationship that lasted two years.”

My first thought on dating through this method, is safety; especially with the reputation of Trinidad’s society.

There are those who are as reserve as I am and had a friend play match maker.

Meeting people that are compatible takes time and effort.

Stacy

“How did I meet her? Hmm, I told a male friend of mine I was ready to meet someone but I don’t know where to go or  how to even start. I know I did not want to do the online dating thing. He knows a lot of people and I trusted him because he knows my personality and my type. Within a week he said I have someone who I think you will adore and he gave me her number. At first I was skeptical,  but it turned out she is everything I expected. I am not openly gay and neither is she. We were both nervous on the first date, we went to the movie. We saw “For coloured Girl” we were in a total mess, everything felt uncomfortable and we were clumsy because of the nervousness. No one made the first move I guess we were both wondering what the first move was! But by the time the third date came around all the jitters had vanished. So far the relationship is steady I love it. We are protective of each other.  When it comes to dating people choose avenues that are suited for them.”

Then there are the brave ones who on any given day will march up to an attractive woman and compliment her whether the recipient responds with disgust, bewilderment, politeness or curiosity.

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Jassy:

I was at a "back in time" party and she was standing at the bottom of the stairs, she asked me if I had a pin or something because the strap of her shoe had just bust loose. I did not have a pin but my purse is like a tool box I found a paper clip and hooked the two straps together. Innovative, I think so. We ended up partying together and exchanged numbers. I felt an attraction for her. I was not sure about her sexuality but I took the risk and told her  I was interested in her. I thought she would have rejected me. When she did not speak to me for awhile I didn't feel crushed or anything. I sent messages and called when she answered, said she was consumed with family issues. I counted my loses; then about two weeks after she called and asked if I want to meet for drinks. I inquired about what I said about me being interested. She said she was not gay. I respected that. But then she sent me this really long message saying something about me was intriguing. One thing led to another and we starting dated. I would pick her up from work, take her to class... lo and behold I found out she had a boyfriend, that kind of killed it for me. “

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The truth of lesbian dating the community is so small and you might meet someone who knows all five of your exes and have dated all five of your exes. Okay not all five, at least three. You are acquainted with all the types. The players,the meet today tell you they love you tomorrow types,  the long term relationship types,  the friends with benefits types and of course the straight girl experimental types. And that's the trouble with dating in general there is no difference to heterosexuals dating.

Lesbians meet anywhere and everywhere randomly and intentionally.