Lesbian parents...just parents!

Like any other relationship that blossom into something deeper partners feel the need for a child or children. Some time ago my partner and I had "the talk" where we discussed becoming parents. She is prepared to go through the treatment for insemination and so forth. We want to keep the bloodline as close as possible. We have communicated this with a male relative on my side of the family to be a possible donor. He is still in consideration. We chose not to go through the route of adoption because of politics behind it. Just the other morning I read a comment from a newspaper's Facebook page where someone said,

“Same sex couples adopting children would promote a nation of sick minds. These innocent children would think that homosexuality is normal. The adults may eventuality indulge the innocent children into the sickness”

Utter foolishness! What does a person's sexual orientation have to do with being good parents? Absolutely nothing. I called my friends Jessie and Lisa and asked if the saw the news report on adoption and same sex couples and they shared their views on the parenting as a same sex couple.

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 Both women had a child from a previous relationship.

Jessie made it sternly clear, " I just want to let you know the kids are alright." Lisa agreed.

Jessie the more talkative of the two added “Why shouldn't we be allowed to have children? People have this misconception that the children won’t grow up normal and that’s a really stupid thing to say. Do all heterosexual parents’ children grow up to be prefect respectable citizens, no? I believe everyone is entitled to bring children into this world as long as they are going to be loving and responsible parents. It is highly ridiculous that there are debates on homosexuals being parents. We provide, we love and care for our children, they know right from wrong, we look out for our children’s best interest like other responsible parents would. The point of the matter is it’s about the genuine intentions of being the best parents to these children. We teach the children the same values as heterosexual couples; respect each other, don’t judge people and believe it or not our children do have a relationship with the Creator. Societies problem is only focus on who we share our beds with at night and who we love and that has nothing to do with parenting.

 I asked about exhibiting physical affection in the presence of the children whether or not this behavior confuses the children.

“They are aware that we are in relationship however we don’t display any sort of physical affection around them.”

I was curious as to why they shied away from showing affection in their children's presence?

Lisa answered “They are at a stage where they are impressionable and ask questions, even though they know mommy and auntie are “together” we don’t showcase our sexuality.We hug that’s about it; there is a time and place for everything.”

What about at school have there been any instant of discrimination?

“My children never had an instant of discrimination from anyone. I am always on guard though; you know how insensitive people can be, children and even adults. I enforce in my son that people are going to say things to you to hurt you but you have to know how to react to it. I tell him let it fall on deaf ear, ignore them. Everyone is entitled to an opinion. However, we don’t compensate bad behavior you do wrong, you will be punish even if that punishment means no television or toys being taken away” Lisa says.

Does your relationship have any effect on your children education?

“Academically they are brilliant.” Jessie says, “My son’s teacher thinks he is a budding writer and she's encouraging him to take part in the school's creative writing competition. My other son is good at athletics, we signed him up in a club. He’s eight but I can see that he has great potential to be a world class athlete.”

What type of relationship do you have with your children’s father?

Jesse explained  “Everyone is fairly cooperative; they see their son’s whenever they want there are no restrictions. At first there was a problem with Lisa’s son’s father. He was verbally abusive towards me. He threatened to file for custody of his son but Lisa and I managed to convinced him we are taking good care (JB) we’re not confusing him with our sexuality. We tell him what’s appropriate, if he asks a question we give him an appropriate answer. The father of my son (CL) just asked that Lisa does not discipline his son as he wants to be the one to discipline him. I am the same way if his girlfriend has a problem with CL I want to be the one to rectify it she's not allow to discipline him.  Although it's like that the boys know being disrespectful to any adult is not tolerated if they are they have to deal with the consequences of their actions. We have meetings to discuss the children well being often. We work together as a family for the well being of the children. We stay out of each others personal relationships, as long as it involves the children we support each other. There is diversity because the fathers are involved, the things I can't teach my son his dad is there to teach him and vice verse. We encourage discussion with the boys on their thoughts and feelings. They are fine”

What else do you want to say about being lesbians parents?

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We are parents. The same concerns heterosexuals have about their children we do too. Children of heterosexuals falters as well, bullied, develop learning disabilities, have attitude problems but who do we blame that on? Surely not the sexual orientation of the parents. We teach our children the same morals 'do unto others as you will have them do unto you.' Does that sound horrible to you? We are honest and they do understand, they are happy and healthy children. We take pleasure in being parents and love our sons unconditionally.