My Gay Mother

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I was watching the movie The kids are alright and I remembered the way my first girlfriend's son used to look at us. I never thought he understood. I never thought he was "alright". 
I decided to ask him how he felt about his mom being a lesbian.

Of course I seek her permission. At first she was a little spketical since she has never inquired about his thought on her sexual orientation. 

She too was curious to his responses.  Honestly, it was a challenge. I did not want him to feel uncomfortable so I assured him if he doesn't want to answer he doesn't have too. 

Do you think your family is acceptable?

It’s difficult to speak about this topic because I love my mother and father. I am taught that men are women are supposed to be together and raise children together but I live with my mom and her girlfriend. I don't feel awkward about it, every family is different. We do things that families do together, go out, play games, help out with chores around the house. To the people who don't know us it will be unacceptable, two women raising children but I don't see it being a problem. Having a gay mom is not a big deal. She teaches me about taking care of myself and other things. She never hide anything from me. I might ask her a question and she might take awhile to answer but she always do. She is always there when I need her. People are making a great fuss about what a family is. A family comprises of people who love and care about you. I am loved by everyone.

My mother’s sexual orientation does not make her a bad human being. She’s not a horrible person. Her sexuality is something beyond her control.  When I was seven we had a discussion about sexuality, that was before my mom told me who she was and before she introduced me to the lady she was dating at that time. I am glad she was honest with me and we had that conversation.

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I am not ashamed of mom but I don’t tell people that she’s gay because of ignorance. I saw a show where a boy was beaten because his father was gay, I am afraid for my mom sometimes. A lot of people hate gays. It is unfair to treat people inhumane because they are not like you. The only way any one will know my mother is a lesbian is if she willingly say so. 
Sometimes my grandmother (my mother’s mom) says horrible things and won’t talk to my mother for days. I think she’s selfish because she acts as though she wants me to hate my mother and that's when I feel agitated and depressed. When I am upset, she blames my mother saying she's destroying my life. But my grand mother has not rejected my mother because she's her child. Parents should love their children no matter who they are, children should honor their parents.

When I see children out with their mother and father I don't wish that was me. 

I have a good relationship with my father he never tries to turn me against my mother. He says things that are inappropriate about her and make it into a joke and I remind him that words hurts. My father goes to church every Sunday. He tells me my mother life is not right, nothing about being gay is right and ask me to beg my mom to come back to God. I tell her, she say she and God talks every day He's okay with her.  

In life everyone has a different path to follow until they find what they are searching for. I believe she has not lost her connection with God every morning I see her praying and reading from the Bible. 

How do you feel about your mother's current partner?
At first I didn't like her.  I gave a lot of trouble. Fought with her son and told my parents lies so that she will go away. But she was still very nice to me. We started having conversations and I realized she is down to earth and I had no reason for my behaviour. She's a chef so whenever we are at home, we experiment with new recipes, baking, things like that. She makes my mom happy.

He added, at times I wonder why anyone would want to be someone everyone tells you to hate. No one will intentionally want to be the most hated person in the world. I put myself in my mom's shoes and even in auntie Jay's shoes (his mother's partner). I wouldn't want anyone casting judgment and hating me. Maybe it affects my mother but she never shows it. My family is different because I am raised by two women but that's the only thing that's different.

I don’t feel different I know I’m cared for by my mother she loves me and my love for her can never be broken. 

There is only thing that I will love to see, my mom dressed up in heel and some make up.

She burst into laughter, " NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN.”

My mother is happy and who she loves is no one’s business. It really doesn't matter to me; she’s my mother I am not ashamed or hate her because the rest of the world is taught too.When I look at her all I see is a beautiful, caring person, my mother.

(11year old Timothy)