The lesbians and bisexual girls showdown

For some lesbians the idea of dating bisexual women comes with a resounding no. I have never dated a bisexual and I am not verse on the subject. But from observations bisexuality is perceived as an illegitimate sexuality.

Biphobia in the lesbian community manifests itself in many different ways where bisexual women often find their sexuality under scrutiny.

So, what’s the big deal with some lesbians not dating bisexual women?

         

     They need to choose one or the other, they can’t have it both ways, that’s just being greedy.

     Lesbians already know what they want, women and there is no in between. I am sure there are some committed bisexuals who deserve fairness just as the next person.

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     To date a bisexual woman is a set up for heartache because nine out of ten times she will choose the man over the female.

     

     If your heart is going to be broken it’s going to be broken because your lesbian girlfriend/wife/partner could leave you for another woman just the same. 

     There is this insecurity amongst some lesbian that the sex between bi-women and men is somehow deeper, more intimate and more satisfying than with women because of the penetrative element. If that’s true of course lesbians are going to be threatened and doubtful. It all comes down to this, if a bi women chose to be with you then trust her choice. 

  

     They are confused straight women who can not handle monogamous relationships. If you are attracted to both sexes that is double the temptation.

  I posted the question in a Facebook group, can a bisexual woman have a monogamous relationship with a lesbian the results were unanimous with the answer “No”. 

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One person even took it as far as saying “Its dependent on which side the bisexual is batting for, so basically it’s a choice and people can change their mind at any point. I would never put my money on a bisexual horse, they often change lanes”

 A bisexual woman enjoys both men and women but only connect to one person emotionally. A woman’s sexuality is separate from the type of relationships she has, when in a relationship communication is primary in establishing rules and boundaries. Everyone hates competing for someone’s time and attention.

      

     Bisexual women are for short term relationship, sexual ones too because often they are sex addicts.

The perception that bisexual women are insatiable because of their attraction to both sexes is inaccurate. I think attractions are over-analyzed and bisexuality is not a sex addiction.

      

     Bisexual women are more likely to have STD’s because they have sexual intercourse with men.

Again I was having a discussion to understand the animosity between lesbians and bisexual women and the answers were still unfavorable. This was one reply “don’t want dick takers around in that way, they are full of sickness.”

Now I thought that was a very unfair statement to make about the sickness and multiple sex partners.

In every sexual relationship it is you and your partner's responsible to practice safe sex whatever your sexual orientation maybe. Knowing your partner's sexual history before engaging in sexual activities especially with someone new is important to your health status as well as your partner's. Sexually transmitted disease and STI’s don't discriminate because reckless sexual behavior can be found in persons whether they are gay or straight. 

I examined myself and asked myself the same questions taking into consideration everything I have discovered. I will like to think that I am an open minded person, so would I date a bisexual woman hmm maybe, maybe not...no.

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But like I said before, I am not well-informed on the topic of female bisexuality but from my observations biphobia in the lesbian community compasses around the same elements as misogyny and homophobia. Most responses are driven by stereotypes and bad experiences which have sowed horrible ideas about bisexual women. These ideas turn us against each other when we ought to unite to battle the same system that coerces us. 

My final thoughts on the matter is, a lesbian has the potential to break your heart just as hard as a bisexual can and if we are truly seeking equality we have to stop thinking that someone being different means they should be discriminated against and bullied out of communities they want to be a part of. 

Come on lesbians, be nice to the bi girls!